The Adoptive Kuwaiti Couple who Make Me Proud
By danderma | May 1, 2012
I was browsing Instagram yesterday when I saw a comment by New Q8 Bride on one of the pictures regarding her sister. Minutes later and I realized not only her sister is the spitting image of her –twin likes, really- but she is young, married, and has a small little boy Hamoodi who is adopted.
Yes you read that last word right, adopted. I had to do a double take at the pictures on Instagram and her blog. If she didn’t use the word “adopted” I wouldn’t have though for one second that the boy wasn’t their own biological son. I saw the huge birthday party they had for him in her father’s house, the gifts, the way the boy is hugged with all the love in the world, not only by the couple but also by her father. I was so touched that a child in Kuwait can find a family to welcome him and give him a life he deserves with adoption.
That baby is so lucky to have found you, Um Hamoodi & Bu Hamoodi. This is not brave, this is beyond brave! She is the first person in Kuwait that I know of who had adopted a child to be frank, shameful to say the least given that Islam doesn’t ban adoption, on the contrary. What is banned in Islam is giving the adopted child your last name but not the actual adoption.
To be quite frank I don’t think the families in Kuwait have the emotional sophisticating needed to love a child who is not their own. People are barely tolerant of their own children, throwing them for nannies to raise or letting them scurry off as they please just so the responsibility of raising them doesn’t become a burden. Or if there are multiple siblings they don’t divide the love and attention fairly among them. Of course this can be found all over the world not only in Kuwait per say but again I think times are really changing indeed.
By the time I asked for the girl’s blog address I had tears streaming from my eyes. There is even a youtube video which made me wail. I would understand a woman wanting to adopt a baby given the maternal instincts some women have can become unbearable but for a young man to go along with it and actually want it? For them both to face society with the baby and have to answer to their looks, disdain, prejudice, and sheer leqafa? It’s the bravest thing a young Kuwaiti couple has done so far.
Um & Bu Hamoodie, you and your families have my full respect. You showed me that even though we feel like the world around us is falling apart, there is still hope with people like you who actually make a difference. May Allah bless you o Allah ybal’3kom ib Hamoodie me3res insha2 Allah 
You can know more about her adoption journey on her blog (link).
13 Comments
Hafsa on May 1, 2012 at 12:04.
Gosh, subhanAllah…going through that blog brought tears in my eyes…Being a mother myself, I cannot even imagine the pain a woman goes through if she cannot have children…and adoption can fill this void so beautifully subhanAllah…wow! All my love to such parents and their adorable children…this blog is an eye opener and a strength pillar for those who have been reluctant so far…go ahead, give a new life to a baby and fill your lap with beautiful joy…:) beautiful, simply beautiful! Thanks for sharing!
danderma on May 1, 2012 at 18:03.
Ur welcome! Did you see the youtube? That baby maskeen is so blessed. As long as there are good people in this world, we should be happy and thankful…
sheikha on May 1, 2012 at 12:56.
ever since I was a little girl I knew that my ultimate purpose is to become a mommy. 7 years into my marriage and a long struggle at the fertility clinic I was heartbroken when I was told that conceiving a child was next to impossible. That time I started volunteering at the orphanage and I wanted to adopt a child so bad but my in laws were dead against it. Thank Allah I had my ‘miracle’ child shortly after, but I do wish that this taboo to adopt did not exist. I just wonder if I didn’t have my baby that I would still suffer this ache and yearning for a child and bear it in silence for the sake of society. Really hats off to this young couple
danderma on May 1, 2012 at 18:09.
They told you its next to impossible? Sob7an Allah! God bless ur little girl!
3ad you know, of all people I think that if you had adopted a baby, she/he would have been one lucky baby!
Panda on May 1, 2012 at 19:39.
God bless these loving parents & their little baby bundle of joy. I really do not understand why there’s this taboo in Kuwait’s society towards adoption. It is not the fault of these children to be in the situation they’re in– they were not asked to be born into that scenario. I’m sure each one of them would love to be in the arms of their parents– or at least in the arms of someone who truly, deeply loves them. I applaud the couple above, and I wish them and their tiny baby millions of blessings. By the way, why is it banned to give your adopted baby your last name?? I know that love is all that should matter, but also wouldn’t something like that make the child feel completely 100% part of his/her name family? Doesn’t the baby deserve that? I am not muslim, so I honestly don’t know the reasoning behind this. Can someone kindly explain?
danderma on May 2, 2012 at 08:52.
Islam is very strict regarding people’s identities and origins. Giving a baby the last name would mean to outsiders that the baby is indeed the biological son of the adopted parents when in reality he is not. Biological relations have a lot of Islamic commitments for example inheritance or marriage or dealing with maharem -women that a man cannot marry hence can see without the veil-. That kind of confusion must be avoided in Islam. If he is adopted then people must know that he is adopted and accept him for that and deal with it accordingly. Therefore many people avoid adopting all together even though its encouraged in Islam.
farah on May 3, 2012 at 09:07.
wooow the topic is amazing bs esmi7ily the way you wrote it was magnificient really… you made me cry wala while reading this post coz every word was true….
we live in a very very tough society as women we have to bare alot of things and endure intorelable behaviour bs these couple gives us hope that the future will be better and the younger generations inshallah will be open minded and unsterdaing and put all these unnecessary barriers behind us once and for all.
thank you danderma youre truley an inspiration!
danderma on May 3, 2012 at 10:32.
Ana? ana ma sawait shay! The inspiration is all theirs!
Not only is it hard living in this society, but to go out and make something impossible happen just to provide a better life for an innocent soul is truly admirable. I am proud this couple is Kuwaiti. They showed me inah eldeniya lel7een ebkhair wallah.
jewaira on May 6, 2012 at 09:30.
thank you for sharing
also see
Special Mothers blog
http://specialmothers.wordpress.com/
and
https://www.facebook.com/specialmothers
Newq8bride on May 6, 2012 at 10:13.
Thank you so much dear
You don`t know how 7amoodi changed our lives, you know me that ana wa7da male khilg yahal o wayed at7l6am 3aleehom , but Hamoodi , is another story , to be honest with you , I was against her , keep telling her you r young o la tablshen 3mrich , yes I was selfish , but she is mashalah so strong ma sm3t ay a7ad , and my parents supported her wayed
Al7een , agool el7mdelah he is ours 7abeebe amoot 3aleeh , and one more thing tra my sister-in-law mort okhoy breastfeed him , so in islaam he is Halal 3alena
danderma on May 6, 2012 at 21:59.
If she was my sister I would have told her myself that perhaps she was too young. But its a good thing inha she went ahead with it. I can see your family’s love and happiness with this little boy! God bless you and him o ybale’3kom feeh me3res insha2 Allah, he’s so lucky to have been welcomed to your family
kk on July 30, 2012 at 13:32.
Ramdan Kareem, Very nice,
God bless the couple with joy and happiness. I am trilled to know it happened in Kuwait. If we want to adopt a baby in Kuwait, how to proceed, i mean how to go ahead, I want to know where to contact and any inforamtion. please explain me on my mail id.
kksree@rocketmail.com.
Thanks and Take care.
danderma on August 2, 2012 at 11:18.
I’m not sure exactly how to go about it. I suggest you contact the um hamoodie the girl who adopted the boy via her blog she will definietly help you more.