We have a saying in Kuwait that roughly translates to “The tail of the dog can never go straight”. We also have another saying that also roughly translates to “A person with a habit can never shake it off”. Both saying basically state the obvious fact: a person cannot change, but is that necessarily true?
I personally believe people are capable of change. I personally am not the person I was as a child, nor the same teenager, or even twenty something girl I used to be. Time and different situations made me into another person. Not a better person, necessarily, but yes I’ve changed.
I used to torment myself about losing friends in my life. How can a person you’ve been so close to one day suddenly stop being friends and stop caring? The friendship no longer meaning anything to? If there was anything I could’ve done differently so we could stay friends but I deducted in the end that while the frienships were good at their prime time -hopefully- one or both parties in this frienship have changed and therefeore stopped being able to mainain the status quo. People grow up, get older, get tired, change interetsts, simply put: life happens and c’est la vie. We just move on.
Some, if not most people, are changed by life. Birth of a child, loss of a loved one, an illness, coming into too much money, gaining power, too many hardships and troubles, etc. Some changes are sudden and evident, others happen slowly overtime. Some people don’t want to change but the do, others desperately want to change but they can’t, not easily. Somethings are harder to change than others, the deeper and more engraved a trait is in a person’s soul the more work it takes to change it. In the end, everyone changes and I believe that each and every single person does indeed have the ability to change if they put their mind and soul into it. Plus, there is no guarantee that people surrounding you won’t change, again c’est la vie. We just move on.
What about you? Do you believe people can change? For better or worse?