On the Subject of Selfies, or the lack of them

By | March 4, 2014


Unless you’ve been living under a rock or something, you must have either seen, liked, favourited, or retweeted the epic Oscar selfie taken by our favourite hollywood stars and their Oscar host Ellen Degeneres. I’ve done all the above and, believe it or not, as I kept seeing it all day long -and still am- on every social media and website, I felt both happy and sad. Happy because you got to see delighted people sharing a moment of success and sad because there must be something wrong with me for being the person with the least amount of selfless on planet earth and barely any incentive to take one in the first place. 

I’m not sure why but I can attribute my lack of selfless to several factors. I’m not a person who looks good in photographs, in other words I don’t photograph well. Also, I apparently am not a photogenic subject for other people therefore I’m almost always excluded from group selfless when taken. I also love to take photographs and I do photograph both food and people well -or better than landscapes for instance- therefore selfie-loving people always tend to ask me to take their pictures for them, not caring if I’d like my picture taken as well and, in more than one occasion, they’d get totally immersed in their mini photo shoot they’d start barking orders at me with each different pose, too vain to notice they are behaving in an obnoxious manner and that I am not their very own photography slave!

Even my own husband barely takes pictures of me when there is obviously one million pictures of him taken by me. It’s not that he doesn’t love me, he’s just not interested in the whole concept of photography and barely has any photographs of himself before he met me therefore I’m not that sensitive about it.

Why am I feeling that something is wrong with me for not taking selfies? Should I be feeling that something is wrong with me in the first place? I’ve only recently began feeling this way, thanks to the amount of cocky people on instagram posting selfies. A selfie once in a while is OK but when you follow someone who posts the exact same pose five to six times a minute several times a day you realise even though they come off as egoistic attention seekers deeply in love with their image exactly like the Smurf with a tiny mirror or that they are simply happy and confident people enjoying their day and the effort it took to look that way. Its more confidence than vanity, obviously they like the way they look and are happy with it otherwise why share their pictures with the world, no?

Am I the abnormal one here? I have my suspicions but I know this for a fact: I come from a time where a photograph meant a developing a roll of film and have your finger crossed while waiting for the photos but it isn’t the case anymore, the years are flying by and the amount of pictures I have of myself growing up aren’t many especially from my twenties era. I’m still in my early thirties, perhaps its time to document myself and the way I look the future. Have I been self-loathing myself away from a selfie? Everything is possible but taking some selflies of oneself shouldn’t mean I must inflict them on the world all the time. It also means I’m getting myself that stick that helps people take pictures of themselves for I’m not one to pester and beg other people to take pictures of me.

What do you think? Do you take selfies of yourself all the time or do you feel silly doing so or are you made self-conscious by not doing so when everyone else is? By the way I’m sharing my idea of an “accidental” selfie in the picture on top, can you see me? I’m the one with the camera *waves hello*.

8 Responses to “On the Subject of Selfies, or the lack of them”

  1. S. says:

    I am NOT photogenic, far from it actually – and for this reason, I loathe taking selfies

    Seeing myself in photos makes me dislike myself (even if for a short while)

    … and here i was thinking that i am the only one

    • danderma says:

      I know exactly what you mean!
      However, I realise now that horrible photos taken of myself before don’t look so bad after, well, years of viewing them again. Perhaps because they are younger photos of myself? The good thing about electronic photos is that they cost almost nothing and can be deleted in a blink if you don’t like them… I am forcing myself to have the confidence fit for Selfies :)

  2. Jacqui says:

    I have yet to meet a person who would take a flattering picture of me, they either are too low and therefore give me the blasted triple chinned image or shoot me from a side making me look like a flat out cookie monster or just simply not take a good picture of me. When I take one of those selfies using an iPhone camera and such I can make it look the way I want and not have to worry. I too do not have many photos growing up because at one point in time I didn’t like how I looked like (sometimes I still don’t) either I gained too much weight in my face or something or the other just stopped me.

    But I do know what you’re saying maybe 30s will make you think differently and take more selfies? 😛

    • danderma says:

      I know what you mean, how no one can take a flattering photo of yourself but yourself but I insist on taking some more photos of mine! I’d rather start now when I’m in my 30’s!

  3. Oh no you don't! says:

    Enough self pity about selfies. Those who take selfies are inevitably hapless narcissists. They crave for attention and need constant affirmation from others. These people existed before too, they just spent a lot of time in front of the mirror.

    The world can survive without selfies and will be better without it.

    • danderma says:

      Hmmm its true when I was a teenager I knew someone who wouldn’t bare step away from the mirror! I wonder if that’s what the world have evolved to, that our mirrors are replaced by smart phone who not only reflect our images but save them and forever document them on the internet!
      I admit to have taken a few more selfies ever since I’ve decided to do more but, being someone who never liked my own reflection in the mirror before, I didn’t like any of my selfies either. Perhaps with time I’ll get used to the person looking back at me!

  4. Hasson1706 says:

    I think it’s humility, not lack of confidence. I am sure if you put on photography makeup and spend enough effort on photographing yourself you’ll end up with gorgeous pictures. However your modesty and kind nature find others and other things more worthy of sharing with the public, and that is the beauty of your personality. I never post selfies even among whatsapp groups that have close family and friends, but my home is filled with pictures of myself because I feel that is where they will matter and be cherished.

    • danderma says:

      Though I thank you for your kind words, but I really do not like myself on camera much. Even back home you’d see pictures hung of everything I’ve shot expect myself. Sometimes I come across a nice-ish picture of myself and think I could post that but what purpose does it really serve? Malah ma3na bel q8y. I actually get quite bored with instagram profiles who post nothing but pictures showing off their veneers over and over and over and over again.